You might be surprised to find out that about 40% of men look for sexual satisfaction outside of their relationships according to Kat Hertlein, Ph.D., a family therapist and professor of human development at the University of Nevada--Las Vegas. So the question remains: why do men cheat?
The following are some reasons why your guy might cheat--or, at least, the excuse he’ll give you:
1. You’ve let yourself go.
If you have ever been in a long term relationship this may ring very true for you. Sometimes, once a couple has been dating for a while a girl may start to feel a little too comfortable. “If she got lazy physically or gained weight or just doesn’t take care of herself, a guy will start looking at other women,” says Steve Santagati, author of The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date and Mate and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top.
However, ladies should not let the double standard exist. If he is demanding perfection out of you, he better look like a Greek Adonis. Guys need to do their part to keep the spark in the relationship. Your man should be showering you with compliments, even if he has to lie sometimes. It will make you feel sexy and want to make him happy.
2. He is sick of your nagging.
They may be sick of constant nagging from their partner and are seeking an outlet. While there is no excuse for a guy to cheat, sometimes they may stray to find sex with a woman who isn’t constantly bugging them.
3. Guys are looking for a girl who understands them.
If a guy feels misunderstood by his mate, it may not be his lady’s fault. Some guys are just angry or afraid to connect. He may have a fear of intimacy, which may be hard to overcome without the help of couple’s therapy.
4. Cheating is exciting for him.
Sometimes, it’s just the thrill of the game that makes a man unfaithful. The thought of getting caught makes it fun. By keeping surprise and sizzle in the relationship, women may be able to stop a guy’s wandering eye. So pick up the latest issue of Cosmo or search through some CollegeNews: Sex & Dating advice columns for how to keep the spark alive.
5. For him, it’s just sex.
Believe it or not but for some guys, sex and love are two entirely different things. A man may love his partner but may still feel the need to seek sex with another woman.
6. You’ve denied him one too many times.
Your guy understands that you are busy or tired but sometimes he needs a little confirmation that you still find him sexually attractive. Find some way of letting him know you still appreciate his sex appeal.
If a guy is sexually adventurous, he may be looking for a woman who is equally adventurous. If you’re not willing to try new things, he may find someone that is.
7. Because they can.
It can be hard for men to resist the temptation to cheat. The internet has definitely made it easier for guys to cheat on their partner. Remember, cheating does not have to be physical it can be emotional too. He could just be looking for someone to confide in.
Our take:
I’m not saying it is okay for a guy to cheat. Far from it: I’m just pointing out the excuses some guys use to explain why they do it. If only we lived in a perfect world where all men were satisfied and women were completely happy in their relationships but the truth is that is hard to come by. What are some other reasons guy’s cheat? Should you ever take back a cheater? Let us know what you think.
